A friend said this on twitter earlier today,
Most of them said things like, "Be strong.", "Be patient.", or "Deep condolences to you and your family.", "May he rest in peace", etc. Even I posted similar comment for her.
Yes, death is not supposed to be interpreted as a trial(?). I believe that as well. Death is something that everyone in this world will have to face eventually.
But, as a person who had experienced the loss of a loved one, a father, there really is nothing can be more comforting than "be strong", "may he rest in peace", and other kind words that people often said.
Death is not a trial, but grieving is a great deal. It requires bravery. Death took away not only the person you loved, but almost everything that you have. Even after years of living without a father, I still can relive almost every moment on the day he passed away. Like it was just yesterday. Grieving is a continuing process and can't be done within months or years, that's what I believe. I know there are stages of grieving according to theories, but I believe there is no clear end about grieving. That is according to my personal experience.
We shouldn't interpret death as a trial, instead we should see death as an awakening. Like how those who've seen death can see Thestral in Harry Potter, we should see death as another awakening in our life.
As for my friend Upie, I believe that this is the best that God had planned. I know I didn't know him much, but I deeply grateful in life and I probably will always be grateful for life for him. Because of your father I had step my feet in the land of gold, Papua. I probably would never have another experience like that in my life ever if it wasn't for him. He gave such a good impression even though I was bit afraid of him (why wouldn't I when I know that your father is in such high position). I pray he rest in peace and hope you can recover soon.
Setelah dipikir2 gue jadi gak setuju memaknai kematian seseorang sebagai "cobaan".I was gonna reply her at instance after I saw the post, but then I hold my self. I think, she posted that comment because our college friend's father just passed away this morning. She posted the news on our group chatroom and then the chatroom filled with condolences from everyone.
Most of them said things like, "Be strong.", "Be patient.", or "Deep condolences to you and your family.", "May he rest in peace", etc. Even I posted similar comment for her.
Yes, death is not supposed to be interpreted as a trial(?). I believe that as well. Death is something that everyone in this world will have to face eventually.
But, as a person who had experienced the loss of a loved one, a father, there really is nothing can be more comforting than "be strong", "may he rest in peace", and other kind words that people often said.
Death is not a trial, but grieving is a great deal. It requires bravery. Death took away not only the person you loved, but almost everything that you have. Even after years of living without a father, I still can relive almost every moment on the day he passed away. Like it was just yesterday. Grieving is a continuing process and can't be done within months or years, that's what I believe. I know there are stages of grieving according to theories, but I believe there is no clear end about grieving. That is according to my personal experience.
We shouldn't interpret death as a trial, instead we should see death as an awakening. Like how those who've seen death can see Thestral in Harry Potter, we should see death as another awakening in our life.
As for my friend Upie, I believe that this is the best that God had planned. I know I didn't know him much, but I deeply grateful in life and I probably will always be grateful for life for him. Because of your father I had step my feet in the land of gold, Papua. I probably would never have another experience like that in my life ever if it wasn't for him. He gave such a good impression even though I was bit afraid of him (why wouldn't I when I know that your father is in such high position). I pray he rest in peace and hope you can recover soon.
